7 Reasons You Should Never Give Up!
We have all heard the old adage that "winners never quit and quitters never win," but sometimes generalized statements like this can lose their true impact without a deeper analysis on what, exactly, they mean. Sure, it's a great motivational quip to keep us moving forward, but eventually we need to move past the one-liners and find the drive to keep moving forward within ourselves.
Here are seven deep reasons that you should "Never give up!"
1. Quitting fuels an attitude that no one wants to be around.
Have you ever met someone who seemed to be consistently negative? Or always find something to complain about? Or who drains the energy from those around them? It's not likely to be a personality you would describe as "magnetic." Similarly, those who give up don't ever seem to just...give up.
They allow their shortcomings to overflow to those around them. Why would someone who has given up, be the type of person who encourages you to persist? Why would they be the type to motivate and inspire you? People who have given up on their own dreams will always find a way to discourage yours.
2. Quitting harms relationships. It often hurts those around them; leaving them little or no option to help you move forward.
To expand on the previous point, if you are close to someone who eventually begins to develop this type of negative attitude, it won't take long to realize that their demeanor will be harmful to your friendship. They may not support you in your endeavors or lift you up when you need it most. They may be nowhere to found during your hard times. Is this someone you can really call a friend?
Friendship is about being there for someone when they need you the most; being there beside them not only on the sunny days, but also on the rainy ones. A person with a negative, defeatist attitude will, no doubt, contaminate your relationship.
3. Quitting is often the result of selfish or narcissistic behavior. That behavior will never end if you don't learn to persevere.
Of course, one should never stay in a position (personal or professional) that makes them miserable. But, developing a pattern of quitting or giving up in mid-stream is a sign of selfish behavior. Why? Because it sends the message that your needs are always most important. Is someone counting on you? Do you have responsibilities you are leaving behind? Who are you leaving high and dry? Your own emotional well-being should never be sacrificed, but if you find yourself walking away from situations before you really get involved, it may be time for some self-reflection.
4. People remember when you quit; it becomes a "negative resume."
Quitting is not something you can do without consequence; it reverberates through your reputation like a wake from a boat on quiet water.
It sends the message that you were unwilling to carry out tasks, to follow through on commitments, or to take responsibility for your assignments.
Again, it is important to know your limits and not stay in a situation that harms your mental health, but walking away should always be your last resort.
5. The repercussions can last a lifetime, and plague you with guilt and regret. Quitters often realize this when it's too late.
There is a famous quote that goes as follows: "Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, an hour, a day, or a year; but eventually it will subside, and something else will take its place. But, if I quit, it lasts forever!"
The fact of the matter is that the pain of discipline is far less than the pain of regret. After quitting, your chances for success are lost. You've walked away, you've given up. It feels so...final. There is no "one more try," after you've made that decision. Perhaps you were working towards something you've wanted your whole life, but felt so discouraged that you decided it was finally time to leave your dream behind. Always remember: The cost of not following your heart, is spending the rest of your life wishing you had.
6. Quitting impacts your emotional state in a very negative way. How you view yourself is very important.
What is more important to your success than the belief that you can be successful? More than encouragement, more than motivation, even more than surrounding yourself with the right people, perhaps the most important factor to achieving your goals is knowing that you can!
Each time you quit, you are sending yourself the message that you are unable to succeed in this particular venture. It can easily become a pattern, as you notice similarities in the form of frustrations. These frustrations, while totally natural and faced by everyone, can feel so much like your last experience, that you may throw in the towel prematurely and find yourself walking away from yet another situation where you could have overcome your challenges. That leads us to our next and final point:
7. Quitting closes doors to important lessons, challenges and the elation of overcoming.
Challenges in life are unavoidable; but the bright side is that overcoming them is what gives real meaning to life! It teaches us about ourselves. It helps us discover and develop new skills that we didn't know we had. Overcoming challenges increases our self-confidence and gives us the momentum to keep moving forward.
Another challenge? Bring it on!
Can you see how "giving up" is robbing yourself? Not only is it robbing you of self-satisfaction, but of the the self-development that is achieved by facing and defeating challenges. It is robbing you of the lessons that life has to offer. It is robbing you of becoming a person who can look back on a challenge that seemed overwhelming, and say "If I had only known then, what I know now...that wouldn't have been a problem!"
About the author: Brian Carroll is the CEO of Pivot Insurance and holds CLU & CPCU designations. He has been part of the life insurance industry for over 30 years. He is also an avid runner and has participated in many athletic endurance events. Brian established the anonymous life insurance quote process here at Pivot and takes pride in the caring and professional staff. You can reach Brian at 1-800-651-1953 or BCarroll@pivot.com.